Arranged marriages are quite common in India. Most parents believe that they have to choose a life partner for their children. However, couples tying the knot via arranged marriages barely get the time and opportunity to get to know each other. Hence it's natural for them to feel anxious on the first night. In this article, we will suggest some amazing first night games and activities that will help newlyweds in breaking the ice and getting comfortable with each other.
First Night Games
Here are 12 interesting marriage games for couples that could ease the conversation on the first night:
#1. 20 Questions
This game is very commonly played by new couples as it helps in knowing the other person better. Both partners get to ask 20 questions to their better halves. The number of questions doesn't necessarily have to be 20. You can decide the count and type of questions based on your partner's interest.
#2 Count Your Blessings
This game involves listing the number of things you are grateful for. They could be a professional achievement, family members, friends, or something else happening in life. You can play this game with your partner to get to know them on a more intimate level. It paves the way for further deeper conversations about dreams, aspirations, and what makes you both happy.
#3 Romantic Scrabble
It is a board game in which players have to form words. You can play it with your partner on the first night with a twist of making only romantic words. This will be a fun way to build up chemistry.
#4 Truth or Dare
Every party is incomplete without a fun round of truth or dare. It would be an exciting game for newlyweds as they get to ask interesting questions to their partners and give them playful dares. This way, you explore more about your partner's life and have a delightful evening.
#5 Imitation Game
This game involves acting out like a favourite movie or cartoon character, and the other person has to guess it. Newlyweds can also act on a particular trait of each other. Imitation helps in getting out of hesitation and opening up with your partner. You will also find out about their likes and dislikes while playing it.
#6 Never Have I Ever
This is a classic drinking game that will help couples in breaking the ice on the first night. One person says a situation, and others have to take a sip of the drink if they were ever in it. You can use alcohol or any other soft drink depending upon you and your partner's preferences. Start this game by asking simple questions first and then slowly move to more playful questions as you get comfortable with each other.
#7 Dumb Charades And Pictionary
These are also very popular party games that couples could play with other family members. The whole idea of these games is to break the ice between couples. Involving family members reduces the awkwardness of the first conversation and gives newlyweds a common ground to interact.
#8 Would You Rather
It is another version of truth or dare, except you and your partner give each other options to choose from in this game. Each question should start with "Would You Rather." Here are some examples that you can start with:
- Would you rather turn something into reality by drawing or make something disappear by erasing it?
- Would you rather be invisible or able to fly?
- Would you rather not be able to see or not be able to hear?
- Would you rather only eat chocolate for a year or popcorn for a year?
#9 Twister
It is played using a Twister mat and a spinner on which different body parts and colors are written. Players have to spin their chances to determine what body parts should be put on which colour box. As the game progresses, you will get into a twisted position with your partner. It, thus, helps in breaking the intimacy barrier and makes you both more comfortable with each other.
#10 Talk Flirt Dare
This game comes with three cards, and each has talk, flirt, or dare written on it. You and your partner have to pick cards one by one and act accordingly. This would be a great game for initiating a conversation and breaking the ice. You can give fun dares to each other or say cheesy one-liners to make it more interesting.
#11 Antakshari
We all must have played this game at least once at get-togethers and family functions. You can play it with your partner on the first night and have a fun time together. It will not just break the ice but also help you in getting to know the music taste of your partner.
#12 Who Am I
This would be an entertaining first night game for newlyweds and will help in understanding each other better. In this game, one person chooses a famous personality and gives the other person hints to guess the name. You can choose a personality based on you and your partner's common interests. They could be from the entertainment industry, politicians, or your close relatives.
BONUS: Other Things To Do On Your First Night (Except Sex!)
The first night is not just about sex. After all the exhausting wedding festivities, you finally get to spend some quality time alone with your spouse. So instead of feeling pressured to have sex, check out these other things that you both can do together that will make the night memorable:
#1 Shower Together
Showers are relaxing as well as romantic. You can light up some scented candles to set the mood.
#2 Chat About Wedding Festivities
Newlyweds hardly get any alone time to interact with each other while the wedding functions are going on. On the first night, you and your partner would finally be unescorted. So why not use this time to talk about all the fun that happened during the wedding? Tell your better half how beautiful/handsome they were looking or how much you love them.
#3 Back Massage
Wedding festivities are exhausting both physically and mentally. Thus, you and your partner can give each other a sensual back massage to relax those sore muscles and get cozy with each other.
#4 Kiss and Cuddle
You can just cuddle inside a cozy blanket, kiss your partner, and talk about how lucky you are to have them in your life.
#5 Plan the Honeymoon
Most couples decide their honeymoon destination and book tickets before the wedding. However, you can have a fun chat about what all activities you are looking forward to, places you would like to visit, and more such plans you have in mind for your honeymoon.
#6 Sleep Together
If you are too tired to do any of these activities, simply snuggle with your partner and go to sleep.
Also Read: Is Marriage All About Sex? | Bodywise
5 Things You Should NOT Do On Your First Night
Here are a few things that one should not do on the first night to avoid awkwardness and discontent:
#1 Don't Take Too Much Pressure
Getting intimate on the first night is not an absolute necessity. You should take things slow and get to know your partner better first. Rushing the process will worsen the situation and might give way to feelings of resentment between you two.
#2 Don't Try To Dominate
Instead of imposing your will on your partner, pay attention to their feelings too. That's why conversations on the first night are important. Utilise this time to understand each other's likes and dislikes.
#3 Try Not To Be Too Adventurous
You may have a lot of things planned that you want to do with your partner. However, first nights are supposed to be relaxing and easygoing. Expecting instant chemistry might lead to disappointment. So go with the flow and focus more on building trust.
#4 Avoid Being Too Self-absorbed
Interactions on the first night should be mutual, and you both should contribute equally. Hence, don't go on too long about your hopes, dreams, and aspirations. Find a common interest and talk about that instead.
#5 Don't Build Up High Expectations
Movies might have made you believe that first nights are magical. This isn't the reality, though. So avoid having unrealistic expectations and take one step at a time.
Summing Up On First Night Games
First nights are special for all newlywed couples. It marks the start of a beautiful life they are about to spend together. The above suggested 1st night games will not only make you and your partner comfortable around each other but will also help in creating memories that you both can cherish forever.
